Experts say more people are facing verbal mistreatment lately. Getty Images
New research shows that harsh words can harm children just as much as physical abuse. The study found that adults who faced verbal abuse as kids were more likely to have poor mental health. In fact, verbal abuse raised the risk by 60%. For physical abuse, the risk went up by 50%.
Verbal Abuse Now More Common Than Physical
The number of people who experienced physical abuse in childhood has gone down. In England and Wales, cases dropped from 20% to 10% among people born after 2000. But verbal abuse has increased. In the U.S., a recent survey found more than 60% of young people said they had experienced emotional abuse, and around 32% said they faced physical abuse.
Big Study Shows Lasting Effects
Researchers studied over 20,000 adults in England and Wales. They looked at their childhood experiences and current mental health. The findings showed that cruel language can leave lasting emotional damage, just like being physically hurt.
Dr. Mark Bellis, who led the study, said, “Verbal abuse in childhood can leave deep scars, just like physical abuse.”
What Counts as Verbal Abuse?
Verbal abuse includes harsh or hurtful words. It may sound like:
- “You’re stupid.”
- “You always mess up.”
- “You’re worthless.”
- “Why can’t you be like Johnny?”
Even if the adult doesn’t mean harm, kids may take these words seriously. Children often see the world in black and white. They may believe these words and carry the pain with them as they grow.
Experts say verbal abuse can include blaming, scolding, name-calling, criticizing, and threats. These words can damage a child’s self-image and sense of safety.
Mental Health and Memories
The study cannot fully prove that verbal abuse causes poor mental health. But the connection is strong. It could also be that people with mental health struggles remember their childhood in a worse light. Still, the large number of people studied makes the findings important.
Words Can Heal or Harm
Dr. Shanta Dube said many adults don’t realize how harmful their words can be. She believes raising awareness is key to preventing emotional harm.
Physical abuse has gone down because of strong awareness and public campaigns. Experts believe it’s time to do the same for verbal abuse. More education can help parents and adults understand how their words shape children’s minds.
Dr. Andrea Danese added that it’s not about blaming adults. He said we should all learn to be more mindful. If someone says something hurtful, they can fix it with an apology and better communication.
Adults Can Make a Difference
All adults—parents, teachers, caregivers—can help by choosing kind and respectful words. Helping children build strong emotional skills also matters. Good communication, understanding, and support at home can protect children’s mental health for life.
